Episode 49
RYM 049: Why You Should Never Talk About Purity Again
For so long, we as the Church have approached the topics of sex and sexuality through the lens of purity. On this episode, join ministry leaders as they define and speak about the differences between sexual purity and sexual integrity. What it means for our ministries, and how understanding the difference will impact our students.
Voices In This Episode
EPISODE RECAP
- We disregard so many stories when we use the word purity. (3:30)
- The Church has a very complicated perspective about the physical body. (5:00)
- We must admit that as humans we are sexual beings. (5:30)
- Purity is less about the absence of sin and more about the fullness of God. (6:00)
- You can be full of God and make mistakes. (6:30)
- How did the purity movement become a movement? (9:00)
- Marriage is not the finish line for purity. (12:00)
- Is sexual integrity the alternative to sexual purity? (17:00)
- We have misappropriated the most important parts of sexuality. (18:00)
- Sexual integrity means guarding my potential for intimacy through appropriate boundaries and mutual respect. (19:00)
- What is intimacy? (20:30)
- Respect and responsibility are mutual when it comes to sexual integrity. (25:00)
- Our beliefs are shaped by the people and the stories we know. (29:30)
- What we are saying to students must not only be true and helpful, but connect with each individual story in the audience. (32:00)
- We have to get comfortable with the fact that teenagers have desires, and those desires need to be talked about. (36:00)
- How can youth pastors help parents win with this topic? (37:00)
- We have to change the narrative from sexual purity to sexual integrity. (40:30)
- Guilt erodes our ability to have intimacy. (46:00)
- Failure is an event, not a person. (47:00)
QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE
“Purity is more about the fullness of God than about the absence of sin.” - Stuart Hall Click To Tweet “Marriage is not the finish line for our sexual integrity.” Click To Tweet “Sexual integrity means guarding my potential for intimacy through appropriate boundaries and mutual respect.” - @Kristen_Ivy Click To Tweet“We must shift our focus from sexual purity to sexual integrity.” Click To Tweet“Failure is an event not a person.” - @IAmStuartHall Click To Tweet
RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE
Resource: First Look Curriculum
Resource: 252 Kids Curriculum
Resource: XP3 Middle School Curriculum
Resource: XP3 High School Curriculum
Resource: The Phase Guides
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